How to Prepare for Anal Sex – Beginner’s Guide

How to Prepare for Anal Sex – Beginner’s Guide

Everything you need to know about how to prepare for anal sex. All in one post.

Anal sex is steadily becoming more and more popular among couples, as it offers heightened pleasure and an intense thrill when compared to just regular intercourse. Research indicates a positive trend of (up to 45%) young women venturing and engaging in anal sex. 

While the thought of it certainly does sound fun and exciting, most couples are unsure how to proceed and end up having anal sex incorrectly or inadequately which could potentially lead to mild to serious discomfort, or in worst-case scenarios, the transmission of infectious diseases. But that changes today. By the end of this post, you’ll not only gain insight into anal sex, but also tips on how you and your partner can derive the maximum satisfaction out of it. Here’s how to prepare for anal sex…

1.) Find a suitable partner

For you to have a pleasant experience in anal play, you must find the right partner. Ideally, you should find someone that you trust and is comfortable with to engage in anal sex. Remember, the anus does not lubricate itself as the vagina does, thus, you may need an understanding and thoughtful partner to create a relaxed atmosphere that, in return, allows you to fully immerse yourself in anal sex.

2.) Communication is the key

After finding the right partner, the next thing you should do is talk about it. Communicate with each other whether or not anal sex is something the both of you are interested and comfortable in. In order to reach a consensus, it is important that both parties actively state what they are comfortable with and what they are not comfortable with. Establishing these boundaries will simultaneously ensure that nothing goes wrong while enabling you to be confident during anal play.

3.) Lube. Lots of lube.

This is fairly straightforward. To have good anal sex, you need lube. A lot, a lot of lubes. As mentioned above, the anus does not self-lubricate as the vagina does, thus, requiring the usage of lubricants. The more lube is used, the easier and more comfortable both parties would be during anal play. Hence, don’t be shy to reapply it constantly throughout the intercourse!

4.) Engage in foreplay

Foreplay is something that every couple should practice before anal sex as it gets you in the mood which, in return, makes you more relaxed overall. It is even better if both parties have already had orgasms and are thoroughly aroused with the intercourse. Being more aroused means that you’re more comfortable, and the more comfortable you are, the more pleasure you’ll experience when going into anal play.

5.) Deep breaths

This is a well-known technique that the receiving (whoever is being penetrated) party should employ during anal sex. Before the other party even penetrates you, you should already be inhaling and exhaling deeply to loosen up your entire body, especially your anus. Furthermore, not breathing properly or shallowly can sometimes cause your muscles to tense or clench up, not only does this restricts your pleasure, but it can also potentially cause anal sex to be discomforting for you.

6.) Letting the receiving party be in control

Whilst there is nothing wrong for the party who is penetrating to be in control during anal sex, for first-timers, it is generally advised that the receiving party should assume control of the experience. This is because by doing so, he or she is free to control how fast, deep, and long should the anal play be. This minimizes the chances of any negative experiences and almost guarantees a good time.

7.) Slow and steady

There is no rush during anal sex, and nor should you expect it to be. Especially for beginners, this is a new realm of sexual experience and should rightfully be ventured into carefully and at the pace of your choosing. This largely ties back to choosing a suitable partner; if your partner is respectful and understanding, he or she will likely ease you into anal sex slowly, which can reinforce the positive atmosphere.

8.) It’s okay to stop or pause

If anal sex suddenly proves uncomfortable or unpleasant and you wish to stop, there is nothing wrong with that. Ideally, you and your partner should already have a safe word in place which signals for the anal play to stop. Don’t force or push yourself to continue having anal if you are already not having fun as this can cause you to have a bad impression on anal sex. Rather, stop and take a break in anal sex, and when you’re ready again, try again and whether or not you like it.

9.) Condoms

Lastly, please, please use a condom. Other than preventing the widespread of STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections), condoms also help with smoother penetration and ease discomfort during anal sex. In addition, do not re-use a condom that has already been put on during vaginal intercourse as you may risk contracting a disease via your anus.


It is without a doubt that anal sex allows couples to discover fresh sensations and heightened arousal, but it is also important that the process of anal sex is done correctly and safely. By following the steps and tips above, we hope you’re fully equipped on how to prepare for anal sex!

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