How to Introduce Sex Toys into your Relationship
A brief and concise guide on how you can introduce sex toys in a relationship comfortably
Sex toys are not only a great way for you to pleasure yourself sexually, but also a perfect addition during intercourse with your partner. Benefits of using sex toys during sex include increased arousal, better orgasms, and also enhance your experiences during intercourse.
Meanwhile, using sex toys yourself is relatively straightforward, introducing sex toys to another person is a more complex situation and may prove challenging, especially for first-timers.
Lucky for you, this post is here to walk you through how you can best introduce and bring sex toys into your relationship with your partner or anyone else.
1.) It’s Completely Normal
Before you spiral into thinking that bringing and introducing sex toys into your relationship is weird, abnormal, or out of the ordinary, let me tell you, it’s not.
According to multiple experts, it is normal that you would want to experiment sexually with your partner with toys or just purely wanting to experience a better orgasm with someone you’re involved with sexually.
Thus, in addition to the fact that sex toys are known for being able to help you reach climax better, it is common that people would want to introduce sex toys in a relationship.
Also, always keep in mind that when you’re talking to your partner about using sex toys together, it is not just for your own individual’s satisfaction; the toys are there to enhance the sexual relationship between both parties.
2.) There Is No Perfect Timing – Just Do It
You may think that you need to be together with your partner for some time before you can introduce toys to him or her. Or, perhaps, you believe that you must have had a certain amount of sex with your partner before you’re allowed to discuss sex toys at all. Wrong again.
Introduce sex toys to your partner whenever you feel comfortable. That’s it. There isn’t a particular time when you’re allowed or should tell your partners about using sex toys in your relationship.
For example, for certain couples where toys are the key to maintaining the sexual experiences they have with each other, they may choose to introduce and use sex toys early on in the relationship. So, don’t hesitate as to when you should talk about sex toys, just do so when you feel ready.
This is fairly straightforward. You will need to communicate properly with your partner before you introduce sex toys into your relationship. But, then, the question arises: how do I start this conversation?
For starters, before approaching your partner, you will have to mentally prepare and ready yourself to have a serious conversation about using sex toys in your relationship.
If you are unable to initiate this conversation or feel awkward that you are going to talk to your partner about sex toys, this is an indication that you’re not at that stage to have sex toys in your relationship; if you can’t even talk about sex toys, you’re unlikely to be able to use sex toys.
However, if you’ve already made up your mind about discussing sex toys with your partner but just don’t know where to start, it is advised that you should start with something simple and lighter.
For example, if you feel nervous about flat-out saying “Let’s use sex toys during sex from now on”, try saying “Hey, what do you think about sex toys?” instead.
So, using a less direct statement or question as a starting point for your conversation with your partner about sex toys can help you cope with your jitters, whilst being able to gauge your partner’s reaction to sex toys.
Another point to remember when you are communicating with your partner about sex toys is that the entire thing should only be a conversation. It is neither an argument, debate, nor a lecture. The point is to keep things as civil as possible without comprising the seriousness of the conversation.
If your partner is getting agitated about using sex toys, slowly ease out of the conversation and end it without escalating it.
Or, if your partner is simply uncomfortable with using sex toys, leave the conversation for now and visit it again when another occasion arises.
Lastly, take caution not to force using sex toys if the other party is not ready, this can potentially harm the relationship between the two parties in the long run.
4.) List Down The Details
So, now that you and your partner are both comfortable with using sex toys throughout your relationship, you need to start listing what kind of sex toys you’ll be using.
This may seem like a hassle or simply unnecessary, but this is a step that shouldn’t be skipped. By listing down what kind of toys you’ll be using, you are preventing any future confusion or misunderstanding which is potentially detrimental to your relationship and capable of jeopardizing everything you’ve built thus far with your partner.
It isn’t always the case that if you follow this guide your partner would automatically be open to using sex toys. Sometimes it may take more time for a person to warm up to the idea of using toys, or sometimes, a person may just be unable to accept the fact that their partner wants to use sex toys in their relationship.
However, this guide will serve you well if there are elements of open-mindedness in your relationship and if your partner is open to accepting new things in your relationship.